What if i'm not getting pregnant?

Typically doctors will only treat for fertility issues if you are under 35 and have been trying for over a year, or if you are over 35 and have been trying for over 6 months. Typically about 50% of people will be pregnant within 3-4 months of actively trying, about 75% will be pregnant within 6-8 months and by a year about 90% will be pregnant. My dr told me that most people who actively try (meaning you are doing everything right at the right time of the month) will get pregnant in 3-4 months and you have about a 25% chance each month. Obviously some get pregnant sooner, and some a little later, but this is the average. This means there is no reason to freak out if you did not become pregnant your first month or two of trying. I know, easier said than done, but it’s a complicated process and numerous things can go wrong and not lead to pregnancy.

If you are at the point where you have been trying for a few months with no success, but it’s too soon for a dr to do fertility testing, then be sure to try all the things on this website, and be sure to chart and use opk’s or a fertility monitor to get a good idea if you are ovulating. Also check out some of the books on the products page - these might help you do things to speed up the process. Taking Charge of Your Fertility is really good, and my favorite was Making Babies.

If you want to try some natural things before going through a bunch of tests, check out the supplements for women on the products page. It's always advised to check with a medical health professional, but I wanted to try things on my own first and spoke with my acupuncturist about the different herbs available and what might be right for me. That path seemed to work well for me, but each person is different.

If you are naturally doing all you can and you don’t have the patience to wait longer for testing, start looking for a doctor who might do some testing a bit early. There are plenty of doctors who wont make you wait a year.

products pagefor male supplements. Have him be religious about using the supplements (if ok’d by the dr of course) and then get tested againin 3 months (remember it take 3 months for sperm to regenerate).

If semen analysis comes back good or better, next step is to do some testing for the female. Speak with your dr to find out where to start. Usually they will start with some hormone testing to make sure your progesterone is at a good level, and this is a blood test that you will have to take on certain days of your cycle. A common one is the day 3 blood test where they test for LH, estrogen, and FSH. And the 21 day test (really it needs to be about 7 days past ovulation....which is 21 days if you have an average 28 day cycle..if you chart you will know what day to take your test) that tests for progesterone.

If hormones check out ok, then they may choose to do a dye test where they send die through your fallopian tubes to make sure they are not blocked. Women have claimed that they got pregnant within 3 months after this test. Not sure if this is a proven and studied theory, but some think that the dye flushes out the fallopian tubes and makes it easier for the egg to travel down. If you do have this test done, be sure to try your best the following three months!

If all this is going on and still no luck, I would personally inquire about a couple of things. First I would ask the dr about Luteinized Unruptured Follicle Syndrome. This can happen form time to time in anyone, but some women have this happening every month. It is rare to happen a lot so don’t automatically jump to this conclusion if you are not pregnant the first month, but if things are not progressing it is worth asking your dr about. Basically this means that the egg grew and was ready to be released but got stuck in the corpus luteum cyst that it was trying to break out of. Your body thinks that the egg was released, therefore you get positive opks and a temperature rise, however multiple scans can show that the egg in fact was not released. No egg means no conception.

The second thing I would ask about that isn’t talked much about is natural killer cells. These are cells that attack lots of things in your body. On the bright side you may not get sick much, on the negative side these cells see the meeting of egg and sperm as a foreign entity and they attack it. You may find some doctors and some websites saying this is a bunch of rubbish, and maybe it is, but if it were me I’d find someone to test me and treat me for this (if nothing else seemed to be working). There are many women who claim that this finally worked for them. Critics say that maybe this just acted as a placebo, but c’mon- why didn’t one of the other 1000 tests they had to go through before this act as a placebo and get them pregnant?? I’m not doctor, but I do know that before attempting any type of artificial insemination or in vitro fertilization (IVF) I would be getting my NK cells checked first.

Making Babiesbecause it was written by a fertility specialist who used to perform IVF and an acupuncturist. They work together to try every possible thing before going the IVF route.

When all else fails you will need to work with a fertility specialist to discuss artificial insemination or IVF. Artificial insemination is less complicated and less expensive, but you will have to see what is right for you.